I am an observer. Not in the sense of being counted on as an eye witness. Believe me, I’d probably send a lot of innocent people to prison if they depended on me to identify someone. I can’t even tell if a man who had a beard or mustache most of his life is now clean-shaven. Come to think of it, I may be unaware that he ever had one. See what I mean. lol. I don’t focus on things like that. It’s more important to me to get to know a person’s character by observing how their words and actions meld. That tells me a lot about “who” they are, what makes them tick, etc. Let me assure you, I have met some interesting characters in my day. I also happen to live with the king of characters which is how I earned my self appointed degree in the study of character and characters. 🤪. Naturally, I rank high on the list of characters I’ve studied but that’s a whole other blog.
What I have learned throughout my interactions with people is that for the most part, we all have an insatiable appetite. Enough is never enough. We’re always looking for more. More of what? More material things, more fulfillment, more value? More love, more purpose? What? Are we even conscious of what we seek or have we just become so conditioned by the words and ideals of others that we continually search for what they say we need? I think, most of us are starving ourselves of what nourishes our soul which is why we can’t quench our insatiable appetite.
It seems to me, that the people in life that require the least, have the most. They are the ones who have taken the time to study, and learn, and are willing to share all that they’ve gained with others. They offer the best of who they are to the world The tough elements of life don’t weigh them down. They use them as stepping stones, reserving their right to sit upon them in order to weed through and discard anything that is no longer beneficial to their well being. People like this understand the significance of their trials and they give thanks for the insight that carries them through. They learned the importance of taking in the moment and the opportunity that presents itself as another stepping stone. Their savoring of life’s nectar is quenched beyond anything their personal appetite might have desired. They offer strictly from the heart and it shows through their every action. These people are not perfect nor do they strive to be. They live life as the genuine being that lives beneath all pretense. They are what I consider the rare gems of life. They show us how words connected to actions can constructively transform us into rays of sunlight for others to be nurtured by. Their essence inspires others through their genuine attributes. Their bounty is endless which is why they don’t hunger for anything. They get nourished by life itself and they are willing to share with those they encounter
Through my observations, I’ve noted that most of us have good hearts that we fill with personal agendas/desires such as: The need to be liked, loved, validated, being taken care of, or taking care of someone, just to name a few. We keep tabs on these desires/agendas as a source of feeding our appetite. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, we just go about it in the wrong way. We go in search of having these needs fulfilled instead of allowing life to fulfill them for us.
It’s not our fault that we do this. Over time, our desires have magnified through society’s vision of what we should go after. With society constantly putting more and more gourmet meals in front of us, it’s only natural we would want to partake in them. After all, we’re told that those meals lead to an endless buffet of possibilities with happiness as our “just dessert”. As we fill our plate from the smorgasbord of delicacies, we can’t help but look over at someone else’s plate wanting to taste the decadent food they’re indulging in.
It’s like the classic scene from “When Harry Met Sally” where Meg Ryan’s character fakes an orgasm and Rob Reiner’s mom tells the server, “I’ll have what she’s having”. Is that what we really want? Something that someone else is faking? Will that satisfy our hunger? We all know it won’t. We also know that if we’re not careful, we may find ourselves filling the void with remedies such as alcohol, drugs, or a list of other potential addictions just to numb the pain. It’s so important for us to learn how to take in life’s simple pleasures by appreciating the value in them all. That’s how we tame our appetite.
We find fulfillment through appreciation. We need to sit at life’s table and take in every morsel of what’s being served. Savor the taste, appreciate every ingredient that was put into what is on our plate.
As a side note, my insatiable appetite for delicious food has been over the top lately. I think I know what I want, but nothing seems to satisfy my taste buds. That desire for food seemed to heighten during the pandemic. I noticed that it was becoming more difficult to quench this insatiable appetite. Rather than take in undesirable calories, I found myself limiting my intake of less desirable food. During this time, I was presented with opportunities for sampling some treats from the most unexpected people. I have to say these treats went above and beyond any expectations I’d been searching for. What made these delicacies so delicious were the extra ingredients that were put into them. They were made with love and given with love. That made me appreciate every morsel of thought, kindness, giving, and time that we’re put into it. That combination of flavors is what filled me. Granted, they all were some of the most delicious meals or treats I’ve tasted but their flavor was enhanced by the gestures that brought them to me.
The only way to cure an insatiable appetite is to quench our thirst with the unexpected. Taste every morsel. Give yourself time to digest it all. Before long, you will have taken in what nourishes and eliminated all the waste. You’ll find it takes very little to be satisfied. You may even find yourself dropping a pound or two of the heavy weight that held you down. Let life present its bounty to you.
Those that have tasted life’s nectar know there is little that societies smorgasbord offers that will satisfy our appetite more than what life offers. Isn’t it worth a try at taming our appetites?
I don’t know about you, but I think it’s high time for me to start a program that will curb my appetite.
Married 44 years to my hubby whose purpose in life is to prevent me from getting through the “Pearly Gates”. Mother of two, Nanna of four loving granddaughters and retired secretary aka administrative assistant. I went to the University of Hard Knocks where I received my Doctorate. My thesis is titled: How To Survive Life’s Trials Without Killing Yourself or Someone Else. I live by the belief that when life throws you a curve, learn from it rather than use it against yourself. Faith and humor are my survival kit. Appreciate the simple things for they are the true treasures of life.