BY: JB McCann – “The Phoenix”

What to write about this week? I’ve written this blog at least three times and started over wondering what in the world would a stranger want advice about from a normal woman like me?  I thought about my past few weeks, and here’s what I decided.

Dear Stranger,

I want to advise you on…

Nothing. Absolutely nothing. You don’t need my advice. No, seriously! What do I have to tell you that you don’t already feel in your heart? That subconscious of yours is your biggest critic and has the inside scope. I’m merely a reflection of how my presence is used in the story you tell.

So, here’s my heart talking to yours…telling you that you don’t need advice. I trust you know what you NEED to do in your life. No, you may not need advice at all. You do, however, deserve a hug. No matter if it’s the best day or the worst, a hug can magically add the positive spin we all so desperately need.

You see, I am a feeler. Luckily for my friends and family, I usually feel love. I do. In my soul, I know my job in life is to give love, genuine love, to as many people as I can…in how I speak to them…in how I raise my kids…how I forgive the unforgivable…how I listen to the unloveable…and recently, I learned that no one, NO ONE, can ever kill that love deep in my soul…not even me.

I’ve learned this about myself in the past few years as I personally faced trauma and despair and still managed to smile at some point afterward. See, hugs are a secret weapon from the heavens and perfected by humans. I truly believe that with all my hippy heart. So, I guess tonight…I just want to write about love and hugs.

There are enough people judging you and telling you how to live. I just want to love you into bravery… to encourage you to look in the mirror every day and choose to be better than you were yesterday. That is all I can ask of anyone on earth.

We all fail. We all break. We all fall. We all have an ugly cry-face. It hurts us all to struggle. Sometimes, feelings suck and if you are sitting in the midst of some bad stuff, I just want to love you out of it. I don’t want to pretend that my 5 steps will solve your issues. I don’t want to lie to you and say “it will be ok” when I have no clue if it will. All I have to offer you, Daily Feeler, is air hugs. If you are reading this and just OVER something…I’d love if you just accept my air hug and let it out.

Unfortunately, love doesn’t always look like butterflies and roses. Love can be absence, depression, grief, and even sheer torture…but think how much love you GAVE to feel THAT deep. When the tears fade, you will remember why the tears started and if you choose to hold onto it, I HOPE it’s in the name of love.

Life is hard right now for us all. Mother Nature is raging. Our country is raging. And all any of us can really do to fix it is find somebody to love. Love them fiercely, gently, genuinely, but most importantly without judgment.

When you get done reading this, I hope that a part of your soul awakens or grows to a new level of peace. I hope you feel inspired to have hard talks, to find real solutions rooted in kindness, and to believe you NATURALLY have it in you to be your best self.

I love that every day we get another chance to just elevate. If there’s air in your lungs, you got another shot to spread positivity either subtlety or at the top of your lungs. Hug someone and get excited about what you have yet to check off your list. I believe with all my soul that love is the best medicine. Your body may be going to sh**; your brain is frazzled to the max; but your soul…that’s untouchable and it thrives on love in the most healthy of ways.

Love and Hugs,
A normal woman in 2018


blog footerJB McCann has worked in “The Biz” for almost a decade, yet she’s somehow managed to keep her feet firmly on the ground. Her altruistic spirit aims to evoke your Inner Phoenix and encourage readers to take the difficult leaps in life, so you can continue to grow.

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